Owning My Story

If you have browsed my blog then you know I post a lot about how exercise benefits mental health and how it can really help with anxiety and depression. Well, a couple of years ago I wanted to share my story and how fitness, along with self acceptance, changed my life, so I wrote a book.

I was quite proud, and the feedback I received from sharing it with a few close friends and family members was terrific but….I just could not bring myself to publish it and make it public. While yes, I have overcome debilitating anxiety and panic attacks, I still had a fear of judgement and ridicule. Is it really that good though? Maybe what worked for me wont work for others? What if, what about, and so on….

Then, just recently I had someone approach me at the gym about how an Instagram post I made regarding my struggles with anxiety really spoke to them. I was touched and decided to share my book with this person. I anxiously awaited his feedback and after a few days received an email that had me completely dumbfounded. Is he talking to me? Is what he is saying seriously about my book? Have I truly made an impact on this mans life with a short story about my personal struggles?

Well, after a few more emails back and forth, it was proven that yes, he was indeed talking to me, about me. Here is a small snippet of his review of my book;

“I want to thank you soooo much for allowing me to read this. I have read it over and over and it is just so damn brave of you to write this. I read it and had tears in my eyes at points as it really hit home. I am just so happy that I approached you (which was very hard haha) as what you have provided me with is a blueprint for success. What you have written should be shared in schools and at conferences as I know there are so many individuals that would benefit.”

*MIND BLOWN*

 

I used to wonder if sharing my story would even make a difference and well, it appears it has, so……I have decided to push aside my fears and finally share its existence. I actually published it on Amazon Kindle a couple of months ago but have done nothing in regards to promoting or sharing it. So, before I chicken out, again, here is the link to where my book can be purchased;

Accepting Anxiety

If you happen to read it, I would love to hear your thoughts. While leaving a review on Amazon would be helpful and greatly appreciated, directly messaging me would also be fantastic as I would love to hear your feedback (positive or constructive)

If you are a minor and do not have access to purchasing from Amazon please let me know and I will share with you a PDF copy.

xo Erin

 

 

Advertisements

Yours Truly in Status Fitness Magazine!

I have to say I was pretty excited for this article as it allowed me to share my personal story and how fitness has changed my life! Click here to read the entire article 🙂

HealthyVisionPhotography_Status_ErinKelly-2

Train Your Brain – 7 Strategies for Building Mental Toughness

train.jpgSo yesterdays post covered the Mental Aspect of Prepping for a Fitness Competition so today I wanted to follow up with some strategies for building mental toughness.

“Research tells us that top competitive athletes succeed because of their physical talents and their dedication to training. However, they also succeed because of their dexterity in dealing with the psychological pressures of a sport. In short, mental toughness and resilience are tremendously important for any athlete aiming to be the best in a sport” – Forbes

Mental toughness is about consistency and focus. Mentally tough people have created habits which keep them focused on whats important no matter what situations may arise. Its not about inspiration or motivation, as these feelings come and go, but about commitment and again, consistency!

Building mental toughness is just like building muscle, it takes time to grow and develop. So, just like you create a routine for your body, here is one you can start on to strengthen your mind.

 1. Evaluate Your Core Beliefs – we all have core beliefs, and while we may not even realize what they are, they can make a huge impact on our success or failures in life. Our core beliefs are developed over time and are mainly based on past experiences. These beliefs will create our thoughts and actions. If you doubt yourself or think negatively towards your abilities to accomplish certain goals or tasks,  you can most likely expect failure.

Taking time to identify what your core beliefs are can help you to evaluate and modify any negative or doubting beliefs. Modifying your core beliefs requires purposeful intention and work, but it can change the entire course of your life.

2. Get Focused – set your goals and stay focused on the long term outcome. Depending on your goals, some may be accomplished within days whereas others can take much longer. Staying focused on the outcome of reaching your goal can help you keep your cool when obstacles pop up. Writing your goals down, telling them to a close friend or family member can also be a great way to hold yourself accountable.

 3. Have Some Patience – anything worthwhile takes time and expecting results immediately will only leave you frustrated and potentially giving up on hitting your goals. Life is a constant work in progress so relax, and let things happen as they will. Stay focused!

4. Learn Acceptance – you cannot control every situation which arises but you can change your attitude and reactions to these situations and create a more positive outcome. Accept what you cannot control and don’t waste your energy on complaining or allowing them to get in your way of accomplishment.

5. Practice Gratitude – focus on being grateful for what you have and not on the things others have that you don’t. Be grateful for your accomplishments and the achievements you have made or will make.

6. Put things in Perspective – not all days will be perfect but keeping things in perspective can help keep this bad day from turning into a bad week or month. Mental strength allows you to see the positive and keep on keeping on when it feels as though the world is against you.

7. Stay Positive – staying positive when things get tough, don’t work out as planned or don’t happen as quickly as you like, is crucial. While some life events may seem impossible to turn into a positive experience, over time they can. Patience, perspective and acceptance can help.

 

Mind Matters – The Mental Aspect of Prepping for a Fitness Competition

indexWhile some may argue, mentally preparing for a fitness competition is probably the most important part of prep. Your mindset from the moment you decide to compete will set you up for success or, unfortunately, failure.

Why are you competing?

This is the first question you need to ask yourself and answer, truthfully. Is it because you want to prove to others you can? Your friends are doing it? While these reasons can play a small part for any competitor, if they are your main reason, you’re off to an erring start.

Now, I cannot tell you what your reasons for competing should be, these will be different for everyone but if not for yourself and your (unique) personal reasons, you may want to reconsider or at least give some more thought into why you want to compete.

Fail to Plan, Plan to Fail

Preparing for a competition is much more than just planning out your routine, supplements and nutrition plan. Prepping for a show is an all day, every day event that can last anywhere from 8 weeks to 6 months +, depending on the competitor. Planning is crucial and includes everything from meal prep to training time to rest days, all on top of your daily regular routine of work, school, kids etc.

Life is full of distractions and stress, expected and unexpected. How do you plan on handling these situations as they pop up? Not having a plan can have a negative effect on your prep as well as leave you feeling overwhelmed and potentially lead to burnout.

Mental Resilience

is defined as an individual’s ability to properly adapt to stress and adversity”

I’ll be honest in that I went into my first competition thinking I had the mental toughness to see me through my prep at ease. Yeah, I was wrong. While it turns out I did have the mental resilience to see it through, it was only because I refused to give up and took every opportunity as a challenge to learn. Having lived with a mental illness for 15 plus years now (anxiety/panic disorder and depression), I have spent a lot of time learning to master my thoughts and doing so to my benefit, in every aspect of life. I truly believe everyone has the ability to do the same, many just do not know how or think they are already ‘mentally tough’ and until they are in a situation where this toughness is going to be tested, they really have no idea.

The best advice I can give here is if you want to step on that stage with your best package and have a positive experience no matter the outcome, don’t be ignorant to the fact that some days may be really hard. Hell, if they aren’t, you’re not doing it right!

 

Be sure to check out the follow up post Train Your Brain – 7 Strategies for Building Mental Toughness

 

7 Tips on How to Avoid Workout Burnout

05-04-14_happy_exercise_shutterstockI wanted to do a quick follow up post to my last one, Is it Workout Burnout? so that you can learn how to avoid and prevent workout burnout from happening to you. Not something that just happens to beginners, even the most experienced athletes can become burnt out the when they ignore the signs and keep pushing.

Staying consistent in your routine is the key to success so avoiding exercise burnout is important if you have goals to reach. Here are some tips on how to avoid workout burnout;

  • Ease into it – if you are new to working out you’ll want to take it easy at first and allow your body and mind to adjust. 2-3, 30 minute sessions per week is a good place to start, gradually increasing over time.
  • Keep things fresh – avoid doing the same routine every session, this will get boring fast and boredom decreases motivation.
  • Switch it up – your routine should have minor changes every 4 weeks and should change almost completely every 8-12 weeks. Not only is this to keep things from getting stale but is also key in breaking plateaus.
  • Rest – rest days are just important as training days. While at rest your muscles heal and grow and strength improves. You also lower your risk of injuries, reduce fatigue and avoid burnout.
  • Reward yourself – set goals and when you hit them, reward yourself! Lost the first 5lbs, get yourself a deep tissue massage. Hit the gym all 5 weekdays this week? Treat yourself to dinner at your favorite restaurant.
  • Get a gym buddy – having someone join you during your workouts is not only great for motivation and accountability but can make your sessions that much more enjoyable.
  • Play – the gym is like a playground for adults and guaranteed, there are going to be some machines or accessories you will have a lot of fun with. Play around, learn new things and have fun with your workouts!

 

Is it Workout BurnOut?

burntoutGym life is going great, you’ve been giving it your all, making it in to the gym as much as you possibly can and the results are starting to show. It’s an amazing feeling and you can’t believe you waited so long to start and all you can think about is your next session.

Then one day you find yourself a little moody and the littlest things start to annoy you. You shrug it off and keep on training even though your a little tired because you haven’t been sleeping very well the past few nights. That of course is the reason why your workouts now leave you feeling fatigued instead of energized and you seem to be sore longer than usual. Next thing you know, your usual gym session time rolls around and for the first time you dread going.

If you nodded your head yes while reading that then you are, or are, on your way to workout burnout. The main signs of burn out include, but are not limited to-

  • sudden feelings of moodiness
  • feeling sad or down
  • having troubles sleeping or sleeping too much
  • increase or decrease in appetite
  • muscle soreness that lasts longer than usual
  • exercise leaves you feeling fatigued and not energized
  • feel unmotivated
  • you’re getting sick frequently or taking longer to recover

Now what? Well, the good news is, you can get back to that euphoric state that exercise gave you but first, you need to listen to your body and take a time out. Exercise burnout not only takes a toll on you physically, but mentally as well and it’s important that you give both body and mind some time to relax to avoid making things even worse. For many avid gym goers, this wont be easy, missing a day in the gym leaves you feeling guilty and anxious. The thing is though, your body is going to appreciate it and in this time, heal, allowing you to accomplish even more when you get back to it.

So how long do we need to rest for? This is completely individual, for some it may be a few days where as others may need a little longer. I do not suggest you stop all forms of fitness completely, but you most definitely need to take it down a notch (maybe two) and allow your body to heal. During this time it also important to work on your mental well being and take the time to remind yourself this is for the best and not beat yourself up over it. Remind yourself why you started working out, why you loved it so much and why you want it to be a positive part of your life. Then, when the time is right, ease back into it and enjoy it and the countless benefits it has to offer. ♥